4 Dec 2024

Hometown Wedding Vs Destination Wedding

Ah, how times have changed! Destination weddings have indeed become a huge trend in India. From beach weddings in Goa to royal affairs in Jaipur or Udaipur, couples today are going all out to make their weddings a unique and memorable experience. The idea of stepping away from the traditional hometown ceremonies and opting for exotic locations is a stark contrast to the days when weddings were deeply rooted in family traditions and logistics.  

There’s something irreplaceable about hometown weddings. They carry an innate sense of belonging, where every corner of the ceremony feels personal and steeped in memories. The familiar streets, the local temple or hall, and the extended community showing up—it’s like a collective celebration of not just the couple, but their families and shared history.




Back then, not having the ceremony in the bride's hometown often raised eyebrows. The practicality and expectations around "community presence" made even a small deviation feel like a big statement. The fact that it was a huge ask when boy's side asked 'ಮದುವೆ ನೀವು ನಮ್ಮ ಊರಲ್ಲೇ ಮಾಡಿಕೊಡಬೇಕು', and now, with global influences, social media, and the focus on creating "Instagram-worthy" memories, weddings have evolved into an elaborate production of style, travel, and storytelling.  

Destination weddings may have the flair, but hometown weddings have the soul. It’s lovely to see couples sometimes mix both—hosting a grand event elsewhere but returning home for an intimate gruha pravesha or a small pooja. After all, isn’t a wedding about balance—old and new, tradition and individuality? 

There’s still a charm in the simplicity of those hometown ceremonies—packed with warmth, laughter, and familiarity, don’t you think? 😊 

14 Apr 2023

Small Things Big Impact

This post is dedicated to lovely management and QC team at SPI. From Sid Mookerji sir, Divyashree Sanjay ma’am, Abhi, Sanjay Srinivas Murthy, Mohammed Ali Jinnah and Mallikarjun Patil sir. 


Back those days when I started off as Trainee at SPI, little did I know that working in the organisation, the learnings will impact my life this big in the future. I have obviously shifted careers, I don’t work in the world of testing anymore - but the kind of process, quality checks that I knew SPI was doing, the things that I learnt is helping me fix a lot of issues in my company today. 





I hated processes back then just like how my employees hate it right now; so much that there are jokes that float around me for my excel-mania. But I am ok, I guess I now totally understand how huge it is for organisations as big as SPI, coz as a start-up it is for The Big Little. It has fixed a lot of recurring issues, made a lot of lives easier, and given a sort of space where you can avoid a lot of confusions. Of course it isn’t CMMI yet, but I am slowly getting to that level soon. 


Not getting much into details, just wanted to thank everyone who shaped me and my process game back in SPI, forever indebted to you guys! 

14 Mar 2023

37 years of "no" self-love.

37 years of "no" self-love. 

March 30th. Exams are over. So no birthdays at school. No colour dress, none fighting over who will be my 'best-friends on my birthday'. 

Back home, my father didn't believe in birthday-cake cutting. So no cake-bisibelebath-chips parties also. Sometimes no-one even wished. 

Imagine how much of a trauma it is for an 'attention' lover that I am. Che!!! I'd once told all my friends that my parents didn't know my birthday hence they didn't celebrate it like "normal" kids did. #WipesTears 

Maybe that is why I have been persistent, (read idiotic) about birthday presents. Sometimes I plug in hints to my friends, sometimes I say it out loud, most of the time I create wish list also. The joy of receiving gifts is the favourite part of my birthday. I look forward to it. Big small huge, surprises make me jump in joy. 

The last time someone took that effort without me having to cajole them was my ex. 20 Gifts for my 20th Birthday. Oh he’d gotten it all right, so cute. That was also the first time I CUT CAKE. (Insert shocking dramatic music) YES that's right, I cut a birthday cake when I was 20! Anyhooo...


Many birthday, many celebrations, many craziness later cut to today
 while picking a gift for someone else (it is not even an occasion) I am 37 and will turn 38 this year (no worries in telling age plus I look younger so that's OK)  I realised that I have been doing this birthday gifts all WRONG. I am still trying to give hints, send links saying "hey look so cute no?". I think I am done with this. Time to grow up, unlearn and embrace the fact that I can myself pick what i want, I can myself choose what I like and I don't think 'who gave what' shouldn't matter. 

It's time for some self love. No more expectations. No more anticipations. No more looking forward to 'someone' making me feel good. I can and I will do it' for myself. 

Bye folks; TIME FOR SOME SHOPPING! 

P.S: This is not one of the ways to make you guys buy gifts, I promise! 

#ಸರಿನಾಹೋಗಿಬರುವೆ

22 Jul 2020

Tiny Tots? Who?

Note: All characters are real, aged 6-7years and are street-smart. 



“Thatha the audio is ON don’t call me “Putta:; my friends are listening” 

“How do we turn it Off, nange gothagthilla Putta” 


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“Alla kaNo, it’s 1:30PM and you ma’am hasn’t come; avrige time sense illa”

“Riiiii audio ON ide, check it please” 


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“Maam I want to say something” 

“Yes (insert a kid’s name)”

“Can I adjust this chair, I can’t reach the laptop” 

“Yes you can my dear”


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“Hi ma’am I want to talk to you”

“Yes”

“You are very nice”


**all kids alert**

“You are very nice”

“Your dress is very pretty”

“You are very beautiful” 


Maam can’t stop smiling! 


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“Someone Galaxy Tab One kindly change it to Child’s name” 

But it remained same for the rest of the class. 


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“Children, next class you all have to wear a dress of your favourite colour”

“Maam that time I said my favourite colour is green; my mumma asked me to change it to Blue; so I will wear that only” 


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“Hi Bhavani what are you doing”

“Nothing I am watching you in this laptop”

“OK”

“OK”


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It's been attending online classes that Kanva and Kshema are part of. I now know the kind of nautankis these kids are! They are meeting the class teacher for the first time and all of them, trust me all the 15 of them including my boy said and I quote "My favourite teacher is **xyz** ma'am"; I went whoa!!!


So I asked Kanva why she was his favourite teacher and he says "Everyone told she was their favourite and if I change that poor ma'am will feel bad" - Damn validations! 


The issue Kshema has is that she follows "mute" always and "unmute" when talking policy as instructed my her teacher; but all her friends keep going "yes ma'am" "no ma'am". 


I am back to being a child again; I tried the right-hand/left-hand salute/thumbs up game along with the kids and lost badly! How is lockdown treating'll?


3 May 2020

ಹಳೇ Paper


This is a paper bag that the local angDi gave eggs in. What’s so special you May ask? It’s just a paper bag that will be discarded. Yes, it is! But do you see what’s written on it? It has been made from someone’s maths work. Back in childhood days, my fav activity was to read such paper bags, what they wrote, how they wrote, were they loving the subject or did they hate the home-work. 






I once had found a note in one of the English rough saying “nam miss bad-u”; wonder what his/her ma'am had done to receive hate! The handwriting most probably was the reason the English ma'am gave fewer marks. 


It was not just the paper bags I received, but I also used to wonder about the stuff that I gave away to the radhi-wala. Would my worksheets be part of someone's pakoDa, or would they be wrapped around 100gms of dhaniya; I'd never know! 


After 38 days of lockdown, we all begin our day-to-day lives from tomorrow. I hope and pray, all the clutter, the junk has gone away and what we now have ahead of us is either making using of the clutter productively or beginning a whole new life. 


 
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